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Relationship Violence


Seeking help when you’re involved in a violent relationship is the bravest and most loving thing you can do for yourself. Refusing to get help means you are willing to sacrifice your life and your happiness for someone else’s mistakes.

It’s easy to get trapped in a violent relationship. In fact, according to, 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in the United States. That translates to an astonishing 12 million-plus men and women a year dealing with relationship violence. The statistics for psychological aggression, also known as verbal abuse, are just as staggering. Anytime one partner uses abusive behavior to maintain power and control over the other it is considered domestic abuse. Feeling afraid or uncomfortable in your relationship is the loudest signal that unhealthy patterns are already present.

Red-flag questions that signal you or someone you know may be dealing with relationship violence:

  • Does your partner make you feel uncomfortable or afraid?
  • Does your partner like to tease in hurtful ways, then shrug it off as a “joke” or complain that you are “too sensitive” if you get upset?
  • Does your partner have a habit of calling you “stupid” or “bitch”?
  • Is your partner jealous or suspicious of your social friends or co-workers, often insisting that you not be near them?
  • Does your partner check up on you by calling frequently or driving by your workplace?
  • Does your partner blame you for his or her bad moods?
  • Does your partner keep money from you?
  • Does your partner force you to have sex when you don’t want to or in ways that offend you?
  • Does your partner make threats if you talk about leaving?
  • Does your partner coerce you to drink and take drugs?
  • Does your partner insist that you stay at home when you’d rather be visiting friends or family?
Your relationship should be a safe haven, not a battlefield. The world is hard enough already.
Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
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Seek help now because over time, these controlling patterns will only worsen and increase.

Everyone, including you, deserves a better choice than to be held captive to someone’s anger and control. The team at CAST Centers is ready and willing to help you break the cycles of violence that are hampering your life. Using a variety of exercises and modalities to support the CAM program, trained facilitators will help you develop the life skills, internal focus, and powerful transformational tools to create a happier, safer life. Learn what healthy relationships look like and start living a life built on safety, security, and support.